Life Changing Lessons from Eckart Tolle 

Eckhart Tolle Motivational Quotes

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Eckart Tolle Quotes

Some of my favorite quotes that help keep things in perspective for me.

The Only Time We Have is NOW

“Time isn’t precious at all, because it is an illusion. What you perceive as precious is not time but the one point that is out of time: the Now. That is precious indeed. The more you are focused on time—past and future—the more you miss the Now, the most precious thing there is.”

“Most humans are never fully present in the now, because unconsciously they believe that the next moment must be more important than this one. But then you miss your whole life, which is never not now.”

Don’t dwell on the negative. It’ll poison your positive.

“People tend to dwell more on negative things than on good things. So the mind then becomes obsessed with negative things, with judgments, guilt and anxiety produced by thoughts about the future and so on.”

The universe provides for your consciousness to evolve and grow.

“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.”

Love isn’t a thing you find outside of you.

“Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you.”

Why So Serious?

“Life isn’t as serious as the mind makes it out to be.”

Complaining just makes you into the victim.

“To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.”

Letting Go

“Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.”

Addiction begins and ends with pain.

“Every addiction arises from an unconscious refusal to face and move through your own pain. Every addiction starts with pain and ends with pain. Whatever the substance you are addicted to – alcohol, food, legal or illegal drugs, or a person – you are using something or somebody to cover up your pain.”

Define yourself for you, and only you.

“Give up defining yourself – to yourself or to others. You won’t die. You will come to life. And don’t be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it’s their problem. Whenever you interact with people, don’t be there primarily as a function or a role, but as the field of conscious Presence. You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.”

You are more than just your mind.

“Boredom, anger, sadness, or fear are not ‘yours,’ not personal. They are conditions of the human mind. They come and go. Nothing that comes and goes is you.”

Be yourself always.

“Authentic human interactions become impossible when you lose yourself in a role.”

“Living up to an image that you have of yourself or that other people have of you is inauthentic living.”

Eckart Tolle 

Watch the Thinker

Because

YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS!

I know you guys have probably grown tired of me quoting Eckart Tolle but I cant stop because my life has improved so much from reading this book!

Tolle says something in his book about “watching the thinker” and its because most of us let our mind and thoughts take over and become so consumed in them we think we are our mind.

Ive got great news for you, you arent! Your mind is only one component that is you.  We have to watch our thoughts because they can breed so much negativity if we let it. For those of us that suffer from anxiety or depression, we know how one bad thought can send us into the abyss of worry and have us thinking about problems and issues that dont exist, what if’s, natural disaster scenarios, etc (having anxiety can get a little crazy sometimes).

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The trick is to separate yourself from your mind when that starts to happen and be more present in the moment. To “Watch the thinker”

“Watching the thinker is essentially a technique that allows you to maintain a very present state by stepping outside of your mind and watching all of its crazy fantasies and delusions.” – fredtracy 

I was trying to think of an analogy to explain it and the best I could think of was the glass half full and half empty scenario.

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The cup half full or half empty reveals your tendency to judge a situation as positive or negative.  If you see a glass half empty, you would tend to put a negative spin on the situation indicating you are focusing on the part of the glass that’s empty. Pessimistic.

If you see a glass half full, you would tend to put a positive, hopeful spin on the same situation, focusing on how much water there is in the glass as a plus.  After all, at least its not empty.  You have that much water to enjoy.   There is a presence of gratitude and motivation. Optimistic.


While its obviously better to be optimistic. What both of these people fail to see is the bigger picture. The watcher understands that the glass is neither half full or half empty it just is. The watcher knows not to get hung up on such trivial things because even though the glass is resting at whatever level its at now. Its overall capacity is greater than half full or half empty.

The watcher understands that the cups function is to be filled and to be emptied and to be filled again because that is the life and nature of a cup. So they would never waste time thinking so much about a cup being a cup! Its whole purpose it to hold ANY amount of water up to its brim.

 

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Think about it… Like REALLY think about it…

 

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Are you happy being unhappy?

You probably had to reread that title a couple of different times because who could possibly be happy being unhappy? To be honest it’s more common than you think. So many of us blame our unhappiness on our life circumstances. “I dont have enough money, I didnt have good parents, I didnt have support growing up. If my spouse or family or friends would only do this then I would be happy. Once I get my degree Ill be happy”

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The only person that is in control of your happiness is you.

An article by Psychology Today states that people who are addicted to unhappiness tend to:

  • Find reasons to be miserable when life gets “too good.”
  • Prefer to play the victim role and blame others rather than take personal responsibility for their choices.
  • Compete with friends and colleagues to see who has it the hardest.
  • Have difficulty setting and achieving goals, or conversely achieve goals only to find that they can’t enjoy their success.
  • Struggle to bounce back when things don’t go their way.
  • Distract, escape or cope by using drugs, alcohol, sex, food, or other addictive or compulsive behaviors.
  • Stop taking care of their basic needs, such as a healthy diet, regular exercise, and adequate sleep.
  • Feel enslaved to their emotions and powerless to change.
  • Feel dissatisfied even when life is going well.
  • Have dramatic, unfulfilling relationships.

Similarly, LonerWolf reports that:

People find it hard to let go of things that make them miserable because they also bring them some type of pleasure. It can come in many forms:

  • Sympathy: Our society and social etiquette encourages sympathy as a form of virtue. If you complain about being sick, about struggling with a personal problem, there’s always a sympathetic ear to listen and offer “you poor thing” and “awww”s that will make you feel special and indulge your egotistical need of acknowledgment and attention.
  • Desires and Expectations: This is attaching yourself to a misery now in order that your future desires will occur. For instance, you might have some ambition to achieve that is bringing you present miseries. So your expectations of the future are the things causing you problems in the present.  Things aren’t going the way you presumed they would.

I was inspired to write on this subject because I am reading the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and there is a section in the book entitled “All Problems are Illusions of the Mind” the book states that there are no problems, only situations to be dealt with now or to be left alone and accepted as part of the “isness” of the present moment until they change or can be dealt with. Problems are mind-made and they need time to survive.

A “problem” by most people’s standards is “an active relationship (a relationship that extends over a period of time) between a human being and a situation that triggers a negative emotion.

For example:

If you stub your toe and have an instant of pain, that’s not a problem. It’s an event.

It only becomes a problem when the pain lasts an extended period of time. Then you’ve probably broken your toe.

If you’re not in pain beyond that instant, then you don’t expend any effort to reducing the pain. You never look for a solution.

IF YOU ARE NOT ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR A SOLUTION YOU DO NOT HAVE A PROBLEM. 

Im not saying complications and things dont arise but in the words of Eckart Tolle “challenges exist, but problems are mind-made. Challenges are something that can only be tackled in the present moment and require action.”

You’ll find that most unhappy people have a solution right in front of them but for whatever reason, they choose to obsess and worry about it instead (in comes the anxiety).

If you’re someone with a “problem” for every solution, you probably enjoy being unhappy.

 

25 Things Ive Learned By My 26th Birthday

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And a recap of everything in between

I really cannot believe that in two days (April 2nd) I will be 26 years old! Seems so surreal! This year, like the others, was filled with some good, some bad, and some anxiety in between. Here are 25 things I learned that I will be carrying with me to 26.

 

  1. Mental health days are necessary: VERY necessary, things happen and because life never stops we dont take enough time that we need to really process things. That build up can really stress you out if you let it. I took about a week off while students were on spring break. It was so needed.
  2. Take deep breaths: I realized I dont breathe from my stomach. Taking in more air really helps with anxiety. giphy (27)
  3. Think about what you’re going to say before you say it: Something Ive been working on my entire life and it still rang true this year.
  4. Grief comes in waves, just accept whatever stage of grief you’re in at that time. This too shall pass: Some days Im fine over the death of my sister and brother, some days all I can do is cry and wonder why. I’ve learned to accept that I may not ever get over losing them and I’m okay with that now. Previously, I thought it was something with time you would get over but in reality, you NEVER stop feeling the loss. 
  5. Complaining solves nothing but makes everything worse: I have made many situations worse for myself by complaining about them. So much sometimes I turn myself off. I’m trying to work on not responding so negatively when things dont go my way. 
  6. Everybody is not going to like you despite how hard you try. And honestly….. giphy (11) 
  7. Keep the past and the people in it, in the past!: Lord, I should put this on my list twice. Tried to reconnect with an old friend and lets just say all hell broke loose. I will be leaving anybody I didn’t bring in 2017  in the back of me where they belong. Good ridden’s! 
  8. There is nothing wrong with needing and taking anxiety medication: Seriously, my anxiety was getting so bad. I thought I would feel…. I guess you could say weak? Because I couldn’t deal with my issues on my own.  When in reality I should have got on medication a long time ago. I think my doctor finally has me on the perfect dosage. Life has truly been so much better since Ive been on it.
  9. Other people’s lives are theirs to live: When I care about people I get so invested in them and want the very best. This leads to me becoming very frustrated and causing myself unnecessary stress over things that really have nothing to do with me. (Yes Im talking about my siblings and close friends, and yes yall better get yall asses in somebody school or trade program)

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10.  You don’t owe anyone an explanation: 

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11. Save as much and as often as you can. Have an emergency fund and then some. 

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12. Spend as much time with your loved ones as you can! Because young or old you never know when you’ll see that person and it’ll be for the last time.

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13.  Work Hard, Stay Humble. 

14.  Stay away from Toxic People

15. Dont ever stop reading or learning.

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16. Be yourself at all times. They either gone like it or not, either way it’s not your business. 

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17. Talk less, listen more: Something Im working on every day.

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18.  Life isn’t just about fun; it’s about forever. Live with heaven in mind.

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19. Spend time soaking in the goodness and love of the Lord: You wont feel the same, and you wont be the same. In a good way

20. Be selective of your friends. Choose people who will help you become a better. Anything else is dead weight.

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21.  You’re the only one responsible for taking care of your wants and needs: Your happiness is YOURS! Dont depend on other people. Always chase your own check.

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22. Discipline. Make your flesh obey your spirit. You can’t be happy the other way around.

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23.  You don’t need to raise your voice to be heard. Im still working on this.

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24. Stop making plans: Usually, they don’t work out, and then im stressed and anxious about it. Just go with the flow.

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25. Don’t compare yourself to those around you: Comparison kills, and besides if God wanted you to be like someone else he would have made you a clone and not your own individual person!

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because:

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Bonus* Forgive Yourself: Because what are you going to do? Shed your shell and climb in a new one every time you fuck up? As long as you learned from it and became a better person who cares? 


So here’s to 26!

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May I laugh more, love more, and live more.


Notable Events in year 25

  • Turned 25 and had an awesome birthday party

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  • Went to AGP with my best friends and sorority

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  • Went to Vegas with my boyfriend. Our first trip together
  • One year with my boyfriend
  • Started my blog

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  • Started a hair company (Slayhaircollection.com) check it out!

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  • Saved more money than I ever have ever

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  • Paid off a significant amount of debt
  • Graduated with my masters

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Love

  • Saw Beyonce in Concert – and whats better than Queen B?

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Im going to make 26 even more lit! Happy Birthday to me!!


 

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